tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36130350.post2763677337212479887..comments2024-02-21T05:25:15.214-05:00Comments on Views from Raven's Nest: Kindness, Grief and Wild GeeseRavenhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04996538460071167819noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36130350.post-63373582413770913512009-06-22T20:26:39.719-04:002009-06-22T20:26:39.719-04:00Raven,
I'm sorry for the frustration and confl...Raven,<br />I'm sorry for the frustration and conflicted emotions you're feeling. It makes sense, as you wrote, that you're mourning for the feelings that were negated and never validated. Sometimes it seeems like the only person to validate us is ourself... at least it's a start. You're not required to make everyone happy, to "be friends" when that is toxic to your soul. Wishing you strength and recovery..Rev. Melissa Dean-Pardo, Hedge Witch of Lakewoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09391586029197331402noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36130350.post-51344207313645403652009-06-21T18:22:17.759-04:002009-06-21T18:22:17.759-04:00Dear Raven,
I have not much wisely to say.
Just th...Dear Raven,<br />I have not much wisely to say.<br />Just that reading your tragic story makes me hurt too.<br />And that's not what you want.<br />I cannot fully understand, but I am angry and in pain on your behalf.<br />And I am praying for that little girl to get free.<br />From FelisolFelisol https://www.blogger.com/profile/12240191154632603841noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36130350.post-1691576475740376682009-06-20T05:18:40.437-04:002009-06-20T05:18:40.437-04:00Raven, You seem to be going through a painful time...Raven, You seem to be going through a painful time.<br />Several years ago my husband found a book at the library called "Toxic Parents." I think it helped him to understand his parents and himself. On the back of the book, there was a list on the cover of the characteristics of toxic parents. My husband's parents fit every one of them. When both of his parents died within a year of each other, I thought he might feel better about himself, since the people who constantly made him feel 'small' were gone, but it took him a long time to get past it all, because then he knew for sure things between them could never be resolved. I'm sure much of the book might apply also to a toxic brother --for that seems to be what your brother was. We can't remember who wrote the book, (perhaps Susan Forward?) but if you search for "Toxic Parents" on Amazon, you will find several similar books. The editorial and customer reviews might help you find a good one. <br />Remember that the pain will pass. It's just no fun going through it.CJhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11105598015852813723noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36130350.post-3324690720508700392009-06-20T01:06:05.768-04:002009-06-20T01:06:05.768-04:00Raven, I wish we your readers and friends could ta...Raven, I wish we your readers and friends could take all the hurt away. I know we can't. You will someday find healing - perhaps where and when you least expect it. Meanwhile there is love, and friendship, and prayer sent your way everyday.<br />Hugs and Blessings.Carlettahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11178161514195582965noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36130350.post-34524016338523024312009-06-19T16:40:25.091-04:002009-06-19T16:40:25.091-04:00Raven, I had a feeling that you were grieving, not...Raven, I had a feeling that you were grieving, not your brother's death, but the fact that now you would never receive the validation you have always deserved. Please know that even though they chose to withhold it, you did deserve that validation. You are important and valuable and your wants and needs were and are every bit as important as there's -- maybe even more important since your needs were most often for the greater good. <br /><br />You don't need their validation. Look to the people who love you now. Concentrate on them. (Yes, I know, easier said than done, but give it a try.) Focus on the positive as much as you can. My prayers are with you as you try to find your own center and a sense of peace.quillyhttp://quilldancer.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36130350.post-28710852382278973922009-06-19T15:10:59.745-04:002009-06-19T15:10:59.745-04:00That is indeed a beautiful poem.
I feel for your ...That is indeed a beautiful poem.<br /><br />I feel for your inner child m'dear. Please accept the Reiki I am sending to you with love. xxxxAkelamaluhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11234268568845148285noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36130350.post-85934832689617755892009-06-19T14:44:30.726-04:002009-06-19T14:44:30.726-04:00I lost my only brother under tragic circumstances ...I lost my only brother under tragic circumstances two years ago...we were not close, we were thousand of miles away, I hadn't seen him in years, but still... I couldn't blog about it, it was too much for me.<br />Sending hugs your way, Raven.MaRhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04627282961669893082noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36130350.post-60593818761335477512009-06-19T13:14:03.589-04:002009-06-19T13:14:03.589-04:00What a lovely poem, and what a kind thought from t...What a lovely poem, and what a kind thought from the friend who sent it. You are absolutely right to let yourself grieve for your own loss and all of the feelings that are brought to the surface by the death of your brother. No one can dictate what grief is supposed to be like for another. Most relationships have more than one side to them, and when someone dies, we can no longer argue directly with that person; we have to solve it within ourselves, in our own way.DawnTreaderhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13956409908791716009noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36130350.post-15587620778297318292009-06-19T12:55:14.323-04:002009-06-19T12:55:14.323-04:00sending some love to ya and letting u know will ge...sending some love to ya and letting u know will get the computer problems fixed have not forgot about it.<br /> much love <br /> naterRainbowPaxhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10062154121865371113noreply@blogger.com