We need to have more honest conversations like this. We need to stop being coy about the impact of racism on our society and speak candid honestly like this. All the blather about someone using the "N" word 30 years ago is a way to pretend we are dealing with our deep-seated bigotry and it's impact on the people who are on the receiving end of it. It's pretend doing something Conversations like this can actually change people. Or at least that's my opinion.